After being repeatedly accused of being "stupid" and "flustered" by student Miao Lin, his girlfriend decided to end his life.

"You have given 'thousands of gold' to others. I have nothing," Miao Lin Han texted his girlfriend. "I said my most precious thing is the future," the girl replied.

"You really are shameless. I want you to get pregnant with me, then go to the lagoon," he added.

On 9/10, the girlfriend is not public identity failed suicide. Despite being saved, she has been brain dead since. One of the last messages she sent to Muu was: "You are very nice and you are a piece of trash".

Her tragic story shocked the Chinese public. Screenshot of the message has nearly 1.4 billion views after only two days posted to Weibo before being deleted. Many people cannot understand why a famous female student at Peking University could fall in such a relationship. Many people also do not know that there is a term for men to use such ruthless tactics to pursue women: "Flirting experts".

These "experts" often use the form of psychological abuse: mocking the opponent's weaknesses, making the victims worried, confused leading to doubt of their thoughts, values and gradually losing their sense of reality. International. Friends of Peking University female students and many internet users claim that her boyfriend used such techniques.

"A lot of the details of their relationship reminds us of the notorious 'flirtatious experts'," the girl's friend wrote on social media. "After a long period of mental abuse, verbal abuse, insults and defamation, she was in pain, fear and inability to retort."

In interviews with Chinese news agencies, Muu denied the manipulation of his girlfriend's psychology and said he did not know what mind control was.

"Expert flirting" is a concept imported from China from the US. Many Chinese men consider the book "Game: Infiltrating the Secret Society of Girls 'Experts'" by Neil Strauss as a "bedside book". They translate books to share tricks to "win" the girls.

Over the past decade, the art of flirting has become a booming industry in China. Thousands of companies and websites offering dating advice for men sprout up. One of the largest websites, Paoxuewang, said it had nearly two million members before ceasing operations in 2018. By the end of 2017, Langji, the most famous flirting skills company with 400 employees and nearly 100,000 students.

It is not clear whether Muou will attend any such program. But the WeChat Index, a service that tracks the popularity of WeChat topics, said the frequency with which the term "prostitute" was mentioned increased nearly 1,700% after the article about the female suicide student failed. is spread on the net.

Some companies and websites provide common advice for men such as dressing well, keeping the door open for women and being considerate in relationships. But there are pages that teach how to manipulate women to serve their sexual needs. They dismiss the idea of romantic love, instead instilling the idea that men should sleep with as many women as possible and completely dominate them.

An online course that teaches steps to achieve goals: making girls feel guilty, lacking in self-confidence, creating emotional manipulation traps to keep the other person from leaving, putting pressure on them. forcing the girl to change her personality to become more obedient, extort money to buy cars, houses and encourage suicide.

The popularity of these programs exposes deep social issues. China is a highly patriarchal society where men are rarely condemned for sexual assault and harassment, while women are often scrutinized for age, weight or virginity.

"If we expose the usual tricks of the 'flirtatious expert', are such tragedies unlikely to happen again?" Fang Kecheng, a professor at Hong Kong University of Chinese Literature, wrote. He argued that the root of the problem lies in gender inequality. "The flirtatious expert is just a 'scapegoat goat'. If we focus on that, we are simply simplifying the complexity of the tragedy."

Some programs seek to capitalize on this inequality, openly teaching techniques to manipulate women. In a program by Langji, lecturer Wang Hoan Yu, the co-founder of the website, boasted that he slept with three women in a day and called it "the ordinary life of a professional prostitute." ".

"I am the most experienced person in China. I only need to talk to girls on the street for an hour and I can take them to the hotel," Wang said.

Wang advised participants not to consult women when they wanted to have sex. "You guys don't have to ask her 'can you take me home'. Just take them straight to a private place." Wang stressed that sex is the ultimate goal.

The government has started dealing with such tricks companies over the past two years and Wang's company has become the target. Last year, Wang spent 37 days in prison for distributing pornography. After the death of a Peking University female student made the industry flirtatious this month, the company removed all content from the website and posted an apology letter, saying it had "done it." bad things ".

4 students sued Langji in 2018 for teaching unethical content, including seducing women for sex through manipulation and psychological control. The court in Chengdu, where Langji is based, this year ruled that the company would return tuition, from $ 1,000 to $ 4,250. Vuong and the co-founder refused to interview.

Police in Jiangsu in May arrested a man who ran a program that teaches men to encourage women to commit suicide, abuse emotions, and treat them as "pets" or "prey". This person who is detained in this 5 is fined more than 7,000 USD. His website and social networking groups have been deleted.

Such programs are the result of inequality in China. Economic growth in the past 40 years has benefited men more than women. The World Economic Forum's 2020 global gender gap report ranked China 106th, down from 63 in 2006. Chinese women now have higher education than before but still have fewer opportunities. male.

Young girls Amy and Kate Zhang are not sure if their ex-boyfriends follow the courtship tricks, but they have a lot of sympathy with the Peking University girl.

Amy said that her ex-boyfriend was very sweet at first, but then continued to dig and criticize her for the smallest things. Although dating for less than three months, he kept saying that she needed to get married and have children as soon as possible because she was 30 years old. "He called me the husky dog and asked me to call him the owner," Amy said.

Kate Zhang said she and her ex-boyfriend have been in love since high school in Shanghai. Trouble started when her boyfriend came to England and she went to America to study. Boyfriend becomes domineering, saying that she needs to lose weight and have too many defects. They quarreled a lot on WeChat, and he also asked her to get pregnant and then had an abortion like the case of a Peking University girl. When Zhang said she wanted to kill herself, he replied, "Just do it".

Both girls are undergoing psychological treatment. They are not sure whether men can be trusted in future relationships. A female student at Peking University had the same thought before she committed suicide. "Now when I think of love, I just shudder," she texted.